Your attitude counts


Think positive. Be optimistic.

It’s the small differences in our attitudes that lead to the big differences in our lives.

Our attitude is everything. Every single morning filled with gratitude is a positive day towards a happier and fulfilling life. Our minds feed on the thoughts we constantly ponder upon.

With gratitude, we create a field of positive thoughts around our minds which result into more of the same thoughts as the day unfolds, it is only then when every obstacle turns to a wonderful opportunity.

Another beautiful Monday is here


It’s another beautiful Monday. A brand new day to start afresh.

Monday is a sign of renewed strength, a new opportunity to towards our goals. Use this day effectively to move closer to your goals. Plan your week ahead of time, do not rush yourself into things. Just do one thing at a time. Be effective.

Once your Monday is successful, the rest of the week fall into place without much efforts.

Have a beautiful day and the rest of the week. Make this moment count.

Not every battle is worth a fight

Not every battle is worth a fight. Some are like passing storms, they will eventually subside. Just be a spectator

Life presents us with various challenges, everyday. However, some battles are way too complicated to deal with. This is why it is important to understand that, not every battle is worth a fight. Some are like passing storms, they will eventually subside without your intervention. Just be a spectator and watch how things take turn for the best.

To be able to acquire the most from your passing challenges, you should learn the art of patience. Patience is not easy. In fact, it is one of the hardest things to master I know. Waiting may seem like eternity or you are simply giving up, but it may still be the best thing to do.

Simply work on yourself. Learn when to take action and when to wait. These are important skills to allow you efficiently concentrate your energy on most important goals and challenges so as to avoid draining it in wrong places.

Simply learn the art of patience.


It’s a beautiful Monday


Guess what? It’s a beautiful Monday, so get up. Dress up. Show up. Let’s conquer the world.

Monday, the start of each working week, signifies a renewed life, a chance to begin or continue working on something beautiful.

Let this day be of renewed strength and enthusiasm. Once you are fully charged on Mondays, you can accomplish absolutely anything for the remaining days of the week.

Just be positive. Be optimistic. Take one thing at a time and enjoy your moment as it comes. Never stress too much. Life is about this very moment, what good is it then wasting it wondering about the past or the future while the present is still waiting for you?

Enjoy your beautiful Monday. May your ways be blessed, abundantly.

A tale of grandma & I: When good intentions give wrong impressions

My grandma and I get along really well. She was always there to give a helping hand and support, through good and bad times. We lived under one roof for quite a long time during my childhood. I love her so much. Like any granny, it was fun spending time with her as a child. We argued and crossed each other a lot – I figure that’s love in disguise.

Now, loving someone entails finding ways to impress them. Make them happy. I bet you also do that.

We always try to impress our parents, friends, relatives, or grandparents. I wasn’t an exception. I tried so much to make an impression whenever I could – I cooked, I washed, I swept floors,and I also did laundry. Just to see that lovely lady smile. She would always return a lot of compliments. It made me feel happy as it touched my heart. That made me feel like I meant something to the world, which made me want to do more good stuff.

Now there was this one day that I committed to memory. It was a Saturday evening, I was 8 at the time. My granny had just retired from work, so she was mostly home. After my playful day with friends I went back home and sat down with her for a chat. It was almost time for a bath. Being in the olden days, there was no shower, no water heater. Simply put, none dared using electricity heating water for a bath – it was a luxury we couldn’t afford. Normally, we boiled water using a charcoal stove and then mix with cold water. Voila, there’s a sweet hot bath.

So, I decided to give her a treat – preparing some hot water. Just to make grandma happy, you know!

Luckily there was a burning stove with nothing on it. So I sneaked out to search for a container that could boil enough water. There were so many containers around – both metal and plastic. Most of them were too heavy to carry and they were all full. I decided to go for the smaller one, the one I could easily manage to carry.

I filled it with water and put it on the stove. BUT just before I could even let it free on a hot burning stove, I heard a loud outcry, don’t put the plastic basin on fireyou’ll ruin it!

Ooops, it was too late, for it was already melting. As a result, the very water extinguished the fire.

What was I to do? As you have guessed, I ran. Yes, I ran really fast that none could catch me.

Then, later I said to myself – all I ever wanted to do was make her happy!

But the very action of making her happy ruined it all.

Now, this isn’t something that happens only to me and my lovely grandma. It’s the type of things that happen every day, to every one. It’s when our very dear and good intentions go bad and hurt the very people we intended to make happy. Moreover, they fail to understand the motive behind our actions. I was very lucky indeed, we settled it the very day. She’s very forgiving. I might have borrowed a leaf from her 🙂 .

But you might not get so lucky.

That day taught me one thing – when something bad happens, figure out the motive behind. There’s always a good reason why people do things, even the ones resulting into negative outcomes. You probably have seen that yourself. Next time, before you get mad or angry, ask why they did that. Your very anger and sadness can transform into happiness.

There’s little you can do when your very best intentions are misinterpreted. But what do you do when someone’s good intentions on you give bad impressions?

Do you think before taking action? Do you even consider that perhaps it was for a good reason?

If we are capable of accidentally committing mistakes, then we must be very forgiving in our hearts when others do the same. They are just humans who are capable of the same mistakes. Being forgiving doesn’t only give you a chance to understand others, but it’s also a chance to accept and understand yourself better. If you can’t forgive others, how can you forgive yourself for the same mistake? For what can happen to us, can happen to any of us. And that’s part of being human.

Just remember, sometimes bad things happen when people try to make a good impression, and that’s okay because it’s also human.

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If you’re going through hell, keep going

going-through-hellIT’S a proven fact that we grow more during times of change and challenges than when we stay in our comfort zones. These extraordinary circumstances make us stretch as we solve problems and cater for our needs. However, most of us detest change, dislike challenges, and bury our heads in the sand when facing obstacles in life, hoping they’ll mysteriously disappear. But they seldom do.

I often wonder, why do we void change? Why do we hate challenges? Why do we run from obstacles in life even when that’s the best way life could polish our skills, strengthen our minds and bring us the quality and standards of lives we have always wanted?

It’s somewhat unusual conduct for someone who wants to improve, right? Is there any logic behind these unusual characters as humans?

Certainly, there’s a logic behind and the answer is simple – we are not logical, we are emotional beings. In face of hardships, the logical side shuts down and the emotional side dominates. As a result, we become very inquisitive, deeply hurt and, oftentimes, we want to understand the meaning behind everything that transpires in our lives. We end up taking too much time pondering on why we go through such trying times while others seem to have the best of everything in life.

As humans, our lives are marked with alternating cycles – happiness and sadness, prosperity and hardships. This is crucial so that life can be interesting. A constant dose of anything in life turns out to be boring, happiness included. A continuous episode of happiness turns to be rather banal and ceases to be happiness. Sometimes, we need to lose it so that we appreciate when it comes back. You see, life’s perfect the way it is – with the combination of varying emotions of sadness and happiness.

It’s surprising how most people wouldn’t question why they are happy while others are in constant hardships. We rarely question when things are going well for us. But when the tables turn, the whining commence. We even forget that we had gone through a privileged episode of happiness.

We’re hardwired to want the pleasure and detest the pain. That’s fair enough. But pleasure doesn’t contribute to our growth, it hardly brings any significant changes. We certainly grow more during the challenging and painful episodes compared to the happy ones, though both are necessary to make life interesting.

It’s important to understand that, no matter what happens, hold on and keep going. In life, things always work out for the best. Some of the mundane occurences in our daily lives can’t easily make sense to us, but with time everything conspires to create the perfect image that define our lives.

The most important thing is that, don’t fuss too much and try to understand the meaning behind every mundane occurence in life. Sometimes we are faced with circumstances without any alternatives, but we still dread to take action. We question, why me? Still no answers come to mind. We waste a great deal of time. Finally, even the small window of opportunity passes us by and problems escalate.

Remember, it’s not so much about what happens to us. It’s the meaning we attach to the occurences and events in our lives that define the severity of what faces us. When you are too pessimistic, the whole world seem to have deserted you.

When you are optimistic, you may try to see the light at the end of your tribulations.

Winston Churchill once said, If you are going through hell, keep going. Don’t take a pause or ask why you are there. Just keep marching. You certainly don’t catch a break when you are facing hardships. You are at war and any moment lost is a big loss on your side.

There are numerous paths to the destination, some require going through hell and back. Just savor every moment in life. Plan your future but live in the present. Face challenges. Embrace change and stay flexible. Let tomorrow take care of itself and make the most of your time today. That’s how you get the most out of life while you still build your future.

Most of all, remember the only right time to connect the dots is when you are past that phase in life. You can’t evaluate the journey when you aren’t sure where you are. Go to the end and start evaluating it.

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You need more than positive thinking

I first heard about the importance of positive thinking when I started the journey to personal development. The idea was immediately very intriguing and plausible. So I accepted it. It was the beginning of the change for the best. However, being a novice, it wasn’t a simple idea to grasp and put in practice at once. I had to go through a roller-coaster ride of filtering what was wrong and what was right.

Today, after years of experience with the attitude of positive thinking, I want to share with you what this actually means to me and how this positive ability made me stand my ground during the most troubling times.

Remember, no two journeys are the same in personal development. We all face different challenges in life. We all have different interpretations of our problems. But these ideas may apply in most cases.

1. It’s about being optimistic amidst challenges

Positive thinking is a philosophy of revamping your thoughts – from old negative thoughts to the positive empowering thoughts. It’s the first step in transformation towards a more conscious being. It’s about being optimistic even in the face of what seems to be insurmountable challenges. It’s not about burying your head in the sand and expect your problems to pass by. No, you have to face your problems, using a more positive approach which turn a problem to a more productive way to learn.

To solve problems more proactively, you have to move to a higher perspective than your challenges. That is, your mind has to consider broad range of choices – with a positive outlook. You have to look at it from a higher plane. That way your problems and challenges seem temporary as you focus more far in the future. Otherwise, even small challenges become permanent failures.

Being an optimist means you face challenges, big or small, with a very positive perspective. You keep your composure even amidst turmoil. You get to learn from your challenges and heed the lessons to avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again.

2. Take action

One big problem facing most novices, like I was at the time, is that, they think all you have to do is train your mind to stay positive and think positive thoughts, then life will do the rest. If you think that way, I tell you that’s a wrong way!

I can assure you that, without taking appropriate action nothing is gonna mature. Action is a MUST, or else you are doomed to failure.

I understand that the first and most important thing to manifest our goals in our lives is our minds. Our minds are very powerful to acquire whatever we need in life. But the mind on its own cannot produce things from nothing. Your intervention is crucial. Mere thinking won’t deliver the results you desire. Likewise, action without proper mindset lead to weak results.

Thus, for best results, you must synchronize your thoughts and actions – that is your mind has to be present when you take the right action. Focus on the positive outcomes of your efforts, avoid worrying, thinking of failures, or shortcomings.

It’s a fact that ideas are always golden in our mind, but when it comes to action, we dread to do the right thing and hence procrastinate.

Imagine for a moment, you set a goal to improve yourself by reading everyday for 30 minutes for the next 30 days. This is an achievable goal if you accept in your mind that reading for 30 minutes every day can change your life. Then all you have to do is focus on the positive outcomes. See yourself a changed person in 30 days. Every time you take the right action, picture yourself a changed person mentally. Synchronizing the two – thoughts and action – will allow you to beat procrastination and easily reach your goal.

3. It’s about hope

Our lives are full of challenges, troubles, tribulations and things of the sort. That’s what makes life interesting. We grow by solving problems in our lives. We don’t grow by experiencing a period of unending happiness.

When you are in period of unending troubles, don’t call them failures. In fact, they aren’t failures. They are only challenges. Failure is a big word and rather demotivating. Challenges aren’t there to stay, they are just temporary. You’ll soon overcome them if you persist in your path. Sometimes all you need is to have high hopes that things will get better soon. Stand your ground and face whatever comes your way.

Nothing should worry you. Worry enslaves your precious mind. It incapacitates you. As a result, you can’t take action and failure is what awaits you. Hope is all that you need, even when your future seems vague and obscured, because as long as you are still alive, things will always get better. Keep the hope so high.

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MOTIVATION: Replenishing when it wanes

Oftentimes I ask myself, is it necessary to be motivated to get things done?  The answers vary but more often than not I find myself saying NO. Motivation isn’t always necessary, but it’s good if it’s in your favor.

However, for most of us motivation is key to love what we do.

Here’s also another article on 10 ways to boost your motivation.

It’s a fact that motivation is a catalyst to getting things done faster, more precisely, and with efficiency. People who are motivated seem to accomplish their tasks effortlessly.

But here’s a catch, motivation isn’t there to stay, it wanes with time, and that’s normal.

We can’t count on being motivated before getting things done. We must do the necessary to acquire what we need in life. If we wait for motivation, then we’ll always procrastinate our lives away.

What a waste of life that is!

Successful people are characterized with a constant drive. They always do the necessary, never waiting for motivation to kick in. The constant push generates results, which in turn generate more motivation. That’s like replenishing the very source of motivation, which is the positive outcomes.

That’s how you keep motivation going forever because you are no longer a slave to your emotions and results keep adding more to it.

Nothing motivates more than positive outcomes, I bet you agree.

This article gives two ways to replenish your stock of motivation regardless of how you feel and keep getting results.

1. Stay Organized

I am always curious about my patterns. Patterns can say a lot about your behavior and can easily predict what you are most likely to do in the future. Thus, I keep studying my behaviors to discover what needs improvement and I change accordingly as I need to become better with time.

One thing I discovered in all productive patterns was that, I was very organized.

To be motivated, get organized! That’s the first rule, you can’t stay motivated when you are disorganized. Disorganization means you aren’t sure what you are doing. You only stay motivated when you are sure of what to do next.

Most of us are so distracted with unnecessary goals that keep stealing our attention from the main goals. Our attention span is hardly long, coupled with stupid distractions we end up doing little or nothing out of our 24 hours. Simply put, what we focus on mostly don’t add anything to our lives.

However, if we are properly organized, it’s easy to spot whether we’re heading for success or disaster.

Accomplishing simple tasks generates huge motivation to engage the next day. This motivation feeds on its own energy – just like the hurricane, in turn you become motivated to move ahead.

We are always searching for an increase in life. Anything that makes you a better person than the present self is good enough – stay organized.

2. Just keep working

It’s better to be in constant motion than to stand still, for the one in motion, no matter how slow, keep moving towards the target. Regardless of what happens, make sure you keep moving. Keep doing what you must do. That will in turn generate motivation. But don’t wait for motivation.

It’s surprising how a person who’s not motivated can boost the motivation by doing trivial tasks or any activity that frees the mind e.g.  gossiping. Remember, it’s only one day that matters to you. When it’s time to work, keep working. Pleasure and trivialities have their own times.

Good life is only for those who keep doing what they must do whenever they have to do them. For such people, there’ll come a day when they will do things they want to do whenever they feel like doing. That’s how life wants us to live, everyday.

We can’t expect to enjoy life if we don’t give our best. Certainly we can’t expect to give our best if we wait for motivation. Life is hard. It’s even harder for people who wait for motivation to start working on their life’s goals and purposes.

You can read more on another article on 10 ways to boost your motivation.

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GOALS: Why we need them and what you must know before having one

Goals are the starting point for attaining anything worthwhile in life. We always plan, consciously or not, but we always have something in our minds to look forward to. Our minds need well defined plans to get things done. To stay alive and happy, we must always make things happen.

If you don’t plan for success then you plan for failure.  In the absence of concrete goals, the mind gathers whatever thoughts and ideas available and lead to their manifestation. Still wonder why you are so stressed and depressed all the time? Think again.

Remember, even procrastination can become a goal. And it is the case for some people.

I can clearly divide my life in two phases – a phase with goals and a phase without goals. As I picture my life without goals, I see a lot of disturbing patterns – distractions, giving up, procrastination, sadness, and failures. However, when I analyse the life with purpose and goals I see other patterns – achievement, success, hope, happiness, determination, and many more good things.

It’s certain that everyone wants to live a privileged life. But privileges don’t spring, mushroom like, from nothing. One must define and follow through a list of goals that are important to achieve in life. Having a definite aim fuels the power and drive towards attainment of privileges and success in life.

Goals are essential to lead a meaningful life. Goal setting is an art, you get better with practice. If you can’t get it right at first, don’t despair, there’s always a room to improve.

However, there’s a difference between setting a goal and achieving it. Here are the factors which account for the differences:

Does it support or hinder your major objective?


Ask yourself, what do you wan’t to become in life? What do you want to achieve? What’s the most precious thing to you in life? What’s your major purpose in life?

Whatever it is, that should be your major objective. That should become your lighthouse. All other goals must lead you closer to it or else you get lost.

When setting a goal, ask yourself, does this complement or hinder my major objective? If the answer is Yes, then go for it. If the answer is No, you must reconsider. Remember, your happiness and hopes each day depends on how closer you move towards attaining your major goal in life.

Will everyone benefit from this?

As human beings we’re connected to others. Our goals have major chances of survival if its success bring more life to many others. That is what makes this world a better place everyday.

Now, when defining a goal, ask how beneficial is it to others? How do others gain from your goal?

You can achieve any goal in life. But you achieve goals more easily with the support of other people. Life favors those who are willing to take others with them in the path to a more and abundant life. Selfish goals aimed at depriving and robbing others lead to dismal failures.

Can I emotionally commit myself to start and finish this project?

What good is a goal if it’s not compelling? What good is a goal if it can’t motivate you to its attainment?

Some goals are naturally achieved and they seem effortless. These are the goals which mature in the mind before we even start on them. I remember in the course of writing my book. I had it written on my mind before I even started it, the results? Well, it is here. Even though it was the first time to write, I was so much convinced that it must come to life and I did it. I committed myself and it was achieved.

See yourself achieving the goal in your mind. If it’s not possible to see it come to life in your mind, then you’ll never achieve it. Seeing the goal coming to life on your  mind makes you capable to weather any storm that may come ahead of you.

Is it realistic?

We are humans, we have limits in terms of what we can achieve, at least at first. A baby cannot start walking during his first day of life. That’s unrealistic.

That’s the same case with our goals. Sometimes when we realize that goal can be achieved, we simply set very big goals at first. That’s well and good but when the goal is too big for your stretch, it ceases to be a goal and becomes an obstacle towards your growth.

You need a motivator not a depressant.

Choose your goals wisely. Be realistic. Start small and improve with time. You can make it if you are patient enough.

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When is time to talk about money?

The power of money has long been shrouded in mystery but it’s a fact that most of us embark on a lifelong pursuit for money right after we finish high school, some even earlier. But do we have a slightest idea behind this alluring money phenomena?

It’s true that money is an everyday means to get by in life but yet it remains as one of the most misunderstood phenomenon. I say that because most of us embark on the pursuit of money without a slightest knowledge of it. Then, all of a sudden the whole world opens up and we realize that life is all we knew but money.

I wonder, wouldn’t it help if we had a little bit of knowledge about money and how to use it since our childhood? It’s a fact that we learn about everything else but money. We openly discuss everything else but money.

Why is that?



In my opinion, family is the very right place to openly discuss about money and it has to start from the very young age. It’s parents’ role to uncover the mystery surrounding money – enlighten kids on the best practices – save and invest to avoid habits of consumerism when there’s no enough.

They say charity begins at home and that’s true for the case of money as well. Children are better equiped to handle their money issues if they are well taught since childhood. It’s also an indisputable fact that, at some point, they will learn all they need to know about money, whether a parent takes initiatives or not. Most times children repeat the pattern of their parents, whether its good or bad it’s immaterial. If it leads to an abyss of debts then there’s where the whole family goes, unless someone takes initiative to show them the other route.

Wouldn’t it be better to lead the way as a parent? Show children what is right and what is wrong?  Teach them some basics they can understand? Instill some good manners on managing their own finances? Or would you rather they come to learn from their own experiences and repeat your mistakes while they could have easily avoided and turn out much better than you?

Robert Kiyosaki, the author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad, narrates his life’s tale of living with two parents with contradicting ideas and beliefs about money. It’s not easy going through such a life and it shouldn’t be but the results are always worth it. The best a parent can do is being more open to children, and let them figure things out while they are there to help. We choose, we either learn while we are young and free to change or we learn while we are adults and our minds are full of negative beliefs ideas pertaining to core beliefs about life.

We all have our poor dads and rich dads with us, but the question is when will you choose your role to your children?

As children we are taught everything about obedience, ethics, morality, following the rules, and numerous others BUT money. The image of money is tarnished and it seems less important to life contrary to the reality.

Why is something as important as money sidelined?

I know that sweeping the subject of money under the rugs doesn’t make it better as everyone decides to handle it their way. Most of which lead to catastrophic ends during adulthood?


Our very ideas of the role of money in life stems from our families. We tend to take those ideas with us everywhere. It surprising how the subject of money is avoided in most relationships. But whether we like or not money is one of the basic necessity and has its place in any relationship, hence it can’t be avoided.

Avoiding the subject of money in most romantic relationships brings the cloud of suspicion. How can such relationship bear a family that openly talk to their children about money if they can’t openly discuss it between themselves?

Strong relationships are based upon truth and openness, subject of money included. If this wasn’t normal in the family, then it can be an issue in any relationship.

Investing or Spending?

It’s always the simplest logics that evade most of and in turn define who becomes financially independent and who sinks into endless debts and poverty. That is the choice of how to use what we possess. It’s not so much about how much you make, but how much you keep. This philosophy is as old as money itself but still can’t get into the head of many of us.

However, other people say it’s not how much you save but how much you invest that counts.

Financial freedom comes through investing – letting money or ideas work for you. But how can one think of investing if they don’t heard a clue about it?

It’s perplexing, most people are amateurs in managing their own finances, let alone investing. Most of us are full of anxiety and fear to lose money. Even worse we’re ignorant on what to invest, and that includes to seek for the right advice. It’s also a sad fact that most people can’t tell the difference between assets and liabilities.

Some say live within your means. Some say expand your means and life more freely.

Job satisfaction or Money?

As children we are taught that life is all about having a career and getting money. It was only that. None said at times money won’t be enough and you have to have other means to look for more. For sometimes most of us try to justify their situations and live within our means. When the goings get tough, we snatch and look for greener pastures.

I understand, I have been there. The most important question is that are you working for the money’s sake or you love your job and want to make a difference?

Few people go for what they love. Most people go for money. What’s the compromise? I don’t know. Isn’t all that about money?

I have known people in very conducive environment for growth in their own career fields but usually quit for the sake of money. Big bucks talk large volumes in this life of consumerism, especially for the people who’ve just started enjoying an independent life.

Money should be taught early in life

Money won’t come without one’s personal efforts, but it’s certain that knowing about it gives one an edge to control their own urge. I am unaware of the downsides of learning the importance of money from the early age, but I have reasons why it’s important to learn about it from the early age.

  1. You acquire the knowledge and control on how to use money early in life
  2. You have a clear picture on what life has to offer
  3. You learn to avoid some unproductive patterns on use of money
  4. You get to solve most mysteries pertaining money early in life
  5. You become confident and self-aware as you consciously learn how to manage money early in life

Final thoughts

It’s true that money is a means, not an end. You have probably figured that out already. But how do you figure that out if one constantly pursues money and money alone? Does ignorance on the subject of money account for our lack of control with money? I suppose not knowing the power of money makes most of us make it a goal – an end and not so much a means. That’s how we end up getting disappointed.

In this era of consumerism people want more money than what they are capable of working for. There’s a feeling to belong to higher classes. Owning every material thing. The need of acceptance and fame. The need to live a life of splendor. Some work hard for it. Some kill for it. Some do illegal business for it. But it’s all about money.

What is the measure of success in our societies? Are there known factors to identify successful people? Some regard money as purely financial power. Others argue money is just a speck in the realm of success.

Is there a universal definition of success?

Whether there’s one or not, I know money is included.  In my opinion, it is important to put the subject of money on the forefront of every aspect of our lives, let’s discuss it openly. Once it we are free then we are all safe.

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