When we come of age, we are supposed to cultivate wisdom. Improve in decision making. Advance skills at achieving goals. Make better choices because they define our lives.
But why do we still make poor choices? Why do we still give up on goals even when they are so compelling?
Back when we were children, most skills were blunt and some weren’t quite fully developed. The imagination of the world was fuzzy and hence hindered us from making better decisions, most times. The lack of better understanding of how the world works made us feel like we must, at all times, be at the center of the attention.
Unfortunately, that’s not how the real world works. The world is unfriendly and colder than imagined.
In life when we lose ground and let our goals slip away, we don’t only miss the opportunity to prove to ourselves that we are capable of achieving a goal and make the difference in life, but we tell our minds that we aren’t good enough to accomplish anything. That is more detrimental than you can imagine because when you back down, it doesn’t only become a simple habit, rather it builds a pattern likely to be repeated in the future.
Here, I present you with two reasons why most of us keep giving up on our best goals, even when we could still achieve them if we went through them properly.
Haste Decision Making
Having a fuzzy ideas on the goal leads to overlooking some very critical issues. This leads not only to problems, but also deters your best efforts when you are stuck and everything seems insurmountable.
Decisions are key in determining how life turns out, that’s why it’s crucial to take time and chew over the idea before putting more efforts to make it come to life.
There’s no problem in delayed decision making, but there is a problem in not making a decision at all. It’s better to decide that you may need time and more resources than overlooking key facts only to find yourself giving up a few days down the road. Better start small and walk your way up than aiming so high and only to find yourself short of supplies to get you going.
Before I started blogging, I had a lot of reservations. I didn’t hastily go around it, but I took time to think about what could become of it when I fully engage myself. I thought of things I had to share with others, interact with people and the effort I have to put to keep contents flowing. That got me past my worries. Had I hastily made that decision, I am sure it would have led me to shipwreck.
Thinking improves our decision making. Thinking gives an goal a better time perspective. Then, you’ll likely see things in a better time frame. On the other hand, quick decisions are always poor and lead to frustrations.
Abundance of choices
In my opinion, having too many choices in goals is a very bad thing. If you have a lot of fallback plans, there’s always a room to leave an important goal for a lesser one when you face roadblocks.
Humans are emotional creatures. We attach emotions to our goals. We take goals so personal.
We hate uncertainty. We avoid pain. We can’t cling to a goal that’s not promising. That’s why we tend to jump from one goal to the next. It makes us feel better and rather occupied with something to look forward to, as long as it is inspires us.
In the end, we go round inthe same circle – we give up.
In my opinion, you can accomplish a goal if it’s the only thing you look up to. It’s the only thing that mattes in your life. That way, even giving up becomes a chore. You won’t have anything else to look forward to. No matter how hard the goings get, such a goal must see the light of day.
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