The characters that lead our lives are so intertwined that one can simply be confused of its complexity. It is best to know that some characters and conducts are more prevalent and powerful in determining where your life is headed. In this case, your attitude towards people, circumstance, or anything in life determines your ultimate success.
This article discusses attitude, the habit that may go unnoticed but yet it has major influences on your life . This article defines attitude, how it forms, how it affects your characters in major areas of your life, and finally it touches on how attitude drives you to excellence.
Your attitude determines everything in your life. The question is, do you have the right mental attitude towards success in life?
You always have attitude, in everything; yes, you have attitude. It determines whether a person or a circumstance appears positive or negative towards you. In fact, attitude plays a greater role in your life, whether you know it and accept it or not. That is the reality of life and you must understand it.
“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” – W. Clement Stone
What is attitude?
An attitude is the way of evaluating things in a certain way. Attitude determines how you perceive people, situations, circumstances, and everything else you come into contact. Simply put, attitude is a complex combination of your habits, beliefs, and characters.
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” Thomas Jefferson
There are two forms of attitude, positive and negative.
A positive attitude sees the positive side of everything in life. It is a major defining character for optimists. Whether the situation is good or bad, there is always a seed of positivity in it.
Here are examples of positive mental attitude: “I always wake up looking forward to a productive day.” “It went wrong this time, but I am certain we will get it right next time.” “I couldn’t make it happen this time but next time, I will.” “I always manage to get things done on time.” “I love the people I am working with; I find them easy to work with.”
A person with a negative mental attitude sees difficulties in everything, whether positive or negative. Their minds are skewed towards pessimism. For such people, nothing goes well, no matter how positive the outlook.
Here are some examples of negative attitudes: “Monday is the worst day of the week.” “I feel that most people are prejudiced against me.” “Most days I wake up in a very bad mood.” “I don’t like talking to these kinds of people.” “I hate my job.” “I find such people abhorring and obnoxious.”
How attitude forms
Attitude is a learned trait. You acquire attitude from the surroundings, and later it develops to a habit. This makes you conscious or unconscious of some of your attitudes, and just like habits, some of your attitudes are so beguiling and constantly leading your actions and you may be powerless to change them. That is the reality of life.
Attitude is best formed with emotions. Emotions are reactions pertaining to how you feel towards people, objects or circumstances in life. Emotions such as anger, jealousy, hatred, disgust, fear, may lead to a negative mental attitude. On the other hand, the emotions of happiness, joy, empathy, euphoria, desire, pride and others may lead to a development of a positive mental attitude.
Attitude shows how you experience your surroundings. It is a good reflection of how you get by with your own beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and behavior. The attitude you display when confronted with a situation or a person talks more about all these traits, combined.
How attitude affects you
Your attitude plays a big role in leading your life. Attitude shows your favor or disfavor of people, circumstance, or any other thing in life. In reality, your attitude is more than your education, your skills, your charms, and all the books you have read. Let’s see where the attitude plays a role.
“Our attitude towards others determines their attitude towards us.” – Earl Nightingale
Are you prejudiced against certain people? Are you freely engaging with all sorts of people? How do you react to small matters in life? Do you forgive? Do you look for good or bad in others?
Your attitude towards your relations, either personal or professional determines your success in handling them. Relations are simply indispensable, and you need strong relations to keep you going in life.
Attitude makes you judgmental. If you have a negative attitude towards people, they will likely respond the same. This narrows your chances of learning and gaining their support towards your success and growth.
Attitude determines your perception towards people. But you must know that, people are indispensable ingredients towards success. If you have a positive attitude, you are likely to garner a lot more from them on your path towards success.
“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” – Raymond Chandler
What determines your level of success in your career is seldom skills and qualifications but mental attitude. It is your attitude that does the job. The role of attitude in this case is twofold.
First, how you act towards your duties – do you dread doing tasks or do you give your best towards results worth your efforts. Are you good at time management or time holds no value to you? Do you plan and prioritize tasks or act on impulse when you are near the deadline? All these show your attitude towards your career and the results are vivid if you prefer one to the other.
Second, how you act and show support to other people in your career. A good example is how a very skilled and qualified employee that is always egoistic and display rudeness can get kicked to the curb without second thoughts because of his attitude. That happens; people are in favor of attitude to skills. Attitude determines how well a task is done, and skills without the right attitude will never give you the best. Attitude determines how far you climb in your career towards success. No matter how skilled you are, if you possess the wrong mental attitude, then you are likely to suffer the consequences of your attitude during the lifetime of your career when a chance presents itself.
“My attitude is that if you push me towards something that you think is a weakness, then I will turn that perceived weakness into a strength.” – Michael Jordan
How do you view life? How do you perceive circumstances in your life? How do you analyze things when they happen? Do you have a positive or negative outlook? This is crucial. If you have a negative attitude, then you are likely to resort in pessimism, which hinders your chances of taking chances and risks towards growth and success. A positive attitude makes you thrive and grow towards the ideal self.
It is true that there are more things to determine how life goes, but attitude plays a major role. Your attitude skews your decisions in life, whether positive or negative. It determines how you see things and that gives them a meaning.
Most of us want to have everything but we don’t want to give anything in return. We want to have all the good things but we refrain from paying the price. How is that possible? Do we get gratifications before we do the hard work? That is certainly the philosophy of the indolent.
Your attitude controls your life decision, it controls your ways of life, and it controls how you perceive things. For instance, how do you perceive the spirit of hard work? How do you perceive abundance? How do you perceive money? How do you perceive quality of your outcome?
Easy catches are everywhere, but with easy catches you don’t get deep gratifications, like the name suggests, you only get superficial gratifications. Deep gratifications come from what you truly earn from your efforts.
Attitude towards excellence
“If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.” – Colin Powell
Excellence begins with a positive mental attitude. The best part is, if attitude can be learnt, then you can certainly learn to acquire the positive attitude towards excellence. You can learn to have the right attitude towards everything in life. Remember, everything counts towards your success. Your relationships are key to getting anything done in life. Your decisions lead your life. The circumstances you face each day determine how well you fair in a long run towards success.
Attitude is a decision. If you aim for excellence, that is achieving the best by improving your day-to-day actions, then the right mental attitude is not an option but a necessity. You have to acquire it, practice it, and ingrain it in you so that it becomes your second nature.
If you do not have the right attitude, then you are heading towards a bottomless pit of suffering in this world. Nothing can save you from that because what determines your life is not what you see on the outside, but what you perceive in your mind – and that is your attitude.
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